Ok here's the problem.
I have 2 friends. Friend 1 known for ages, done loads of social stuff together. Friend 2 known a little less, but still for some years since I had ds. I would class them both as quite close friends.
Neither knew each other originally but have themselves become friends over the last year(ish)through me and also since they happened to find themselves occasionally working in the same place.
It's now all dinner parties, get together's and 'in' jokes (I'm not invited) with yet another fairly good mutual friend 3. Sometimes this is sheepishly mentioned to me, so not sure if they are deliberatly trying to play it down for my benefit or not. I certainly do know they see a fair bit of each other now though because we all live nearby and interact with the same people; so hard not to notice.
Dh and I are now clearly and suddenly very much on the edge of this inner santum of friendship. Our company is occasionally called upon now for general stuff ie the odd birthday or whatever to make up the numbers, or if childcare/babysitting is required from me. That's now it.
Two or three years ago this was not the case - they were just two separate couples (well 3 if you include the other couple, also well known to us) whom we saw socially, but separately.
I shouldn't care - it's damn childish I know, and petty too! I feel quite about how much it seems to be bothering me tbh, but I would not treat my friends this way, not in a million years. Please, do tell me to get a life and not to care or be jealous - or do you think you might feel the same? I suppose my feelings are hurt - I can get a bit sensitive about this kind of thing and have quite high expecatations from my friends. I do not wish to control who becomes friends with whom, that would be ridiculous - it's not about that - and at first I was very pleased to think they'd become friendly, but why on earth treat me like this?
There have been no fallings out or any reason that I can see why we are being so blatantly excluded. And it is blatant because they cannot possibly think I don't notice this is happening.
Feeling very angry and quite anti the lot of them atm.It's got to the stage now that I don't want to join in even when we are asked occasionally to the more general stuff.
I handle it by just glossing over it when the subject comes up, but inside I feel very differently. Sorry for droning on!
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TinyGang · 08/07/2005 16:24
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