To cut a long story short, MIL told DP that she doesn't feel as close to DD (10 months) as to his brothers DC, because DP and I aren't married (and have no immediate intention of getting married). DD and I 'could bugger off at any moment'. This wasn't said in an nasty way; DP was asking her about strange behaviour on her part, and she told him. She also knows it's unreasonable ('I know it's silly but I'm old fashioned and that's how I feel'). In a way I'm glad she was honest about it so we can now deal with it.
So, I want to think of ways to (subtly) help her feel more connected to DD. She lives in another part of England and we can't visit very often (we have no car and the trains are very expensive, even if booked in advance), though we do try and go at least three times a year. When she comes over to our town she always stays with DP's brother and his family, as they have a bigger house (we don't have a spare room and no room in the lounge for a sofa bed), and ends up helping them out with the school run, nursery run etc (they have three kids) and only pops in to see DD and I for the odd hour or so. So we don't see loads of her. But I do really want DD to have a good relationship with her, as she is generally a lovely person and also the only grandparent around (DP's dad - they're divorced - isn't that interested and my parents live overseas).
So, any ideas for things we can do to help her feel connected to DD (other than getting married!!)? Thanks in advance...
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naomilpeb · 23/10/2009 14:09
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