Online dating - how do you knock 'em back gently?

[TheOozingPusOfSeptimusSquelch]

I mean the nice decent ones, not the obvious knobbers, who express an interest but you know you wouldn't hit it off with or fancy?

Some lovely people have contacted me on Soulmates, and I'm not interested, but I don't want to just rudely ignore them either. Any tips on diplomacy?

[SolidGhoulBrass]

'Thanks for your interest but I don't think we're quite what each other is looking for' should do. If they keep on, you can be a bit firmer eg 'No, honestly, thanks but no thanks'. ONly graduate to 'Fucking hell, take a hint you MINGER' if you have to

[TheOozingPusOfSeptimusSquelch]

But even that (your first suggestion) seems so blunt?

Isn't there a nicer way? Or would that just be sending out the wrong message?

I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings (sap)

[sincitylover]

Maybe it's rude but I don't answer many emails only those I am interest ed in.

I don't honestly know whether they are expecting each woman to reply. IME they tend to mail many women - sweetshop scattergun approach

Just out of interest have you emailed anyone - I haven't done much of that

[colditz]

go with SGB

"Thanks for taking the time to message me, I was looking for someone a little closer to where I live, good luck"

Although I said that to someone 50 miles away once and his response was "I can move"

[freeeeeakazoid]

And hypocritical of me because my Bf (online dating does work) is 40 miles away - but he's hot