Dating again - internet virgin

[justlikestartingover]

Hi - new here so I'd better introduce myself. I recently separated from my partner of 10 years. We have 3 dcs under 6 but, cliche alert, about 2 years ago he had an affair with a colleague. I found out and although he ditched her after dithering about for a couple of weeks and we tried again, my heart just wasn't in it - always felt deep down that really I deserved someone who loved me enough to never do that to me, particularly as it was a full on EA as well and I got to read all the mails and texts between them, which was awful. He said much nicer things to her than he'd ever said to me!

But enough of that - I have dumped the dead weight and am now (despite 9 month old baby) back on the market. So I'd really like some tips on internet dating - I live in a small town and can't often get a babysitter as I'm quite new here. The idea of being able to chat a bit and weed out the undesirables first sounds ideal. So, tips on where to start much appreciated - I have no idea of good sites etc - thanks in advance.

[willitknockmyteethout]

I joined Plenty of fishabout a month ago, left a message with a chap... little bit of friendly banter, we emailed daily, soon moved to texting/chatting, met up and are now dating... I swear I've died and gone to heaven...
good for you, go for it...

[justlikestartingover]

Thanks! I do like to hear the success stories as it makes me eel like I am doing the right thing. Living with a load of horrible stuff about what ex-p had said about our relationship (though after of course he swore blind it was only a product of the heat of the moment and what he thought he felt for her, not real...) churning over and over in my mind was not a good way to live.

Unburdening now... I do feel lonely from time to time and miss the company, but I don't miss crying over what I'd lost every day, so i guess that means I did the right thing, doesn't it?