Dcs have not seen their daddy since the beginningSeptember. for them not me
We have been divorced and moved out about 15months ago.
Up until now I have been the main facilitator of contact even going so far as inviting xh for meals to give the dc time with him.
If it wasn?t for the dc I would rather not see him at all although xh used to refer to visits as coming to see ?you all?. On a few occasions he has taken them out for the day or afternoon but not on a regular basis and no where near as often as I would have hoped
Recently for reasons I won?t go into here I have told xh that any correspondence between him and I has to go via solicitors unless it is about arranging contact with dc in which case he can email or txt me.
He has claimed through his solicitor since then that he doesn?t see his children regularly because it seems to depend on my mood so wants regular set contact (which incidentally I had proposed in the original contact order) which was to have started two Saturdays ago. In the event he didn?t make an arrangement to collect them (said he didn?t have the finances) and couldn?t commit to every two weeks but for me to let him know their timetable so he could fit something in.
His relationship with his dc seems to be more a function of whether he and I are speaking.
Anyway, cut a long story short, ds1 for the first time asked me to call his dad to invite him over so they could go to the park.
I really don?t want the man in my house but I have no objection to contact taking place outside my home but am not holding my breath for him to come up with a firm arrangement any time soon.
But, my question is how do I explain long absences and periods of no communication to the dc (7 & 3)?
He doesn?t even phone them every now and again.
Sorry for the rather long post.
Anyone in a similar situation?
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Advice please - What do I tell dc when asked why Daddy hasn't been to see them for a long time?
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citronella · 20/10/2009 14:27
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