As some of you may know from previous posts my dp is a heavy drinker and the problem has been there from the beginning I was just too stupid to see it. He is a lovely man with some great qualities but the drinking blows all them away. He gets ratty, foul temper and generally not pleasant to be around after a drink or when he 'wants' a drink. Not an everyday, vodka in the morning man just drinks beer too fast and too frequently. It gets in the way of a 'normal' family life. Anyway after spening too much money on beer when we didnt have the mortgage money was the straw that broke the camels back for me and 3 weeks ago he lef surprisingly without a fight and is staying with a friend. We have 2 boys 5 and 9 who adore him although there was communication problems between dp and eldest son recently . Dps lack of patience etc... He has begged me to come back and has been at a low eversince. Im so unsure on how I feel though, confused isnt the word. I dont know if I miss him, if i love him or if i want him back. I enjoy the tranquility of it now he is gone and the house is an altogether quieter place. Not sure if its happier. Youngest son asks for him alot, the eldest rarely but did say the other night can Daddy come back if he promises not to shout. Dp only has to say the slightest thing to him and he cries. dp says that its my fault for always butting in when he is telling him off but its that dp doesnt talk appropriately to him and speaks before he thinks. Spoke to partner tonight and explained that I want to want him to come nack but im not sure i do. He said he understands and that he is having trouble convincing himself that its for the best. Said he needs to be alone and sort himself out. He has tried nefore to sort his drinking out but it always ends up back here. He is attending aquarious metings ( alcohol councilling) What the heck do I do???? What if he enjoys living alone, what if he meets someone else. What if I leave it that long I dont want to live with him again>>>> Please advide Mnetters????
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Split up with dp over his drinking, what do I do now??
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shatteredmumsrus · 03/09/2009 19:59
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