what do you do if your dh loves you so much that he smothers you, is practically obsessed by you but you no longer feel the same? I been with my dh since i was 18 am now 42. He works away a lot but when he is home he wants to be with me constantly, comes clothes shopping with me, spoils me, but i get texts if im ten mins late from work, he tells me what shampoo to use, likes other men looking at me but he does really love me says im his life.
We have 2 dcs 14 and 16 but i bt them up a lot on my own.
The trouble is i have fallen hopelessly in love with another man. He is not married but was with someone 20 years bt no longer. I have tried to fight it so has he. He went away for 3 months to work give me space,I booked romantic holidays for me and dh but I cannot get this other man out of my mind. He wants me to be with him marry me we hav talked and talked. He tells me what Ive got to lose is he worth it and should he go away again for me to make mmy marriage work?
I have tried and tried but just dont feel the same abt dh anymore. I love him and care abt him but not the same. I think abt this man from morning til night if i had no kids I wd be gone tomorrow, I have given this so much thought.
It wd be awful but i cant go on like this. I dont want an affair. I feel like i shd leave our home but cant leave the children. They used to being without their dad but it wd be awful. I also cant get dh to move out because that wd be awful.
I love this man there is no dbt but what on earth do i do? He said he'll wait for me til kids get older but i cant live a lie.
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