I need some advice how to separate from my daughter's father with the best outcome for our child.
Whenour daughter was born his family behaved extremely badly. I will give a few examples
Upoin arrival home after spending 5 days in hospital I found the house in a terrible state left by his sister.
- house muddy with handprints on walls
- muddy floors
- filthy bathroom with over 10 towels dirty and wet dumped on floor. No dry towel in the house.
- pubes and other hair left in very dirty bath with stains all over bath
- filthy toilet with poo stains
- kitchen mess with dirty dishes all over the kitchen surface whilst the dishwasher was unused
- food in fridge all eaten
Myself and my partner had to clean for over two hours, whilst all I wanted to do upon returning home was cup of tea, decent food, sleep and enjoying our baby daughter.
His parents arrived and organised a party without our knowledge or consent. I knew about this party at our house 1 hour before guests arrived and told partner explicedly that I did not want this and to send people away which he did not do. After 6 hours of hiding upstairs, I threw everybody out myself.
Mother in law shrunk my vintage cashmere in wash despite being told over 5 times not to touch them. TV was on for over 10 hours a day with volume at 30 so I could not get rest. Pleads to please turn it down at acceptable level were ignored.
I spent my birthday alone with my newborn daughter in the park wandering around aimlessly as I could not stand being at home with these people.
Parents stayed over 7 weeks although I did force them to move out of our house in 5 weeks as I simply could not cope anymore.
I got severe Post Natal Depresion as result of all the stress.
Partner just told me to get 'over it'. After Relate counselling he finally admitted that this was wrong but they did things that they shouldnt have , but they know this and are very upset about it.
He has problems setting boundaries although he does manage to be nasty to me. I have lost all respect for him and I want to separate.
He does not understand how disgusting their behaviour was, maybe he needs to hear it from other people.
He refuses to move out, saying he can't afford to buy anything, refuses to apply for social housing and that I simply cannot do this to him and our daughter.
I want to start over again, maybe even have another child but not with him as I don;t want any further involvement with his family.
Any advice greatly appreciated how to go about this