This will be fairly long - sorry but needs must.
My DP and I hold equal shares in a company with another couple - each individual has 25% each.
We set the business up 2.5 years ago and since then I have been the main driving force behind the company, getting it up and running and taking care of all aspects of it.
Last November DP and I moved 300 miles from our established patch to start another office in a new area to expand the business. We left the other couple to take care of existing area. This was because they owned their home and we were renting also because I am originally from Cornwall and wanted to come home for personal reasons.
DP and I wanted to start a family and found out I was pregnant on new years eve - baby is due in 5 weeks.
I have worked hard throughout pregnancy to establish new area and DP has been much more involved here as he isn't distracted by other projects anymore.
We discovered 8 weeks ago that business partners have set up a seperate company doing the same thing as our company in a neighbouring area. They did this about 2 days after we told them about my pregnancy.
Since we moved away they have not developed any further contracts, made any sales or appeared to have developed the business at all. They have also been extremely uncommunicative and very liberal with company funds to finance travel, expenses, wages etc.
Both DP and I have been getting increasingly frustrated with them and have discussed how we can split from them many, many times. My DP has been particularly keen to move on and we have had many exhausting arguements and discussions about how best to seperate ourselves.
This recent discovery gave us the perfect reason to split and we have taken advice that has confirmed this. Every other individual we have discussed this with has advised us to split and continue our business in our area without the involvement of our existing partners. This included my step-father who DP has discussed this with at length.
We have been in heated discussion with them for the past fortnight, with them denying any wrongdoing (waste of time as we have proof of their new company) and DP has asked me to deal with them and other parties involved as he has a tendancy to lose the plot and start shouting/swearing. So I have dealt with this on my own, trying to keep calm with these people and also trying to appease our clients/suppliers and others who are caught up in the mess whilst DP rages around the house to me about how much he hates them (partners), how he can't be bothered any more, how he has failed, been betrayed etc etc.
Yesterday he spoke to partner (the man) and between them they decided to put it all to one side and keep the business together and carry on as if nothing has happened.
I am so angry and upset. I feel like DP has made a total fool of me as I have been calmly sticking to our guns and telling them that we must split for 2 weeks and dealing with all the anger and lies and deception. Now DP picks up the phone for the first time, listens to all this rubbish,does a complete volte face and makes a mockery of everything I have said. Also he did this without discussing it with me. Just came in after speaking to them and told me that they had decided to put it all behind them and carry on as normal! So despite everything we have discussed for months and the fact we are supposed to be a team (DP and I - in life and business)he suddenly decides to go completely in the opposite direction and expects me to just go along with it.
I am so upset and angry with him and I really don't know what to do.
This is not helped by the fact I am getting on in this pregnancy and really want to be focussed on the baby and not getting all upset by my partners mad behaviour and lack of respect for me.
I just want to cry but it won't make any difference.
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AliBean · 04/08/2009 11:42
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