DH is the eldest of 3 sons. B-i-L#2 is just 1 year younger and lives with DW and 3 DC in US. BiL#3 was 7 years younger and had terminal illness and died 2 years ago. 'Cos of his illness all of I-L attention was completely focused on youngest son - he literally was their universe and could do no wrong. (They even moved whilst DH was at Uni and didn't tell him their new address!!!) When BiL#3's health deteriorated over a 12 month period before his death I-L's behaviour changed. They tried to reestablish their nuclear family, expecting DH to spend all his free time with them and his brother. Myself and DC were pretty much excluded. Although this was really hard (DH was working away at the time so we didn't get to see much of him) we understood because they were under so much strain, but the situation gave me a nervous breakdown and left me with depression which I thought I'd dealt with. 2 years after his death B-i-L#2 + family is over from U.S. I-L have organised a Golf day in BiL#3 memory. OH went as a non golfer which is fine. A sit down dinner was organised at his Aunts house after the golf (1 mile away from ours) with all the family invited except the two DiL! We thought this was a bit odd and DH said he couldn't go using a 6am start at work as the reason to avoid confrontation. MiL used emotional blackmail to get him to go. He went and now I am furious. It's as if the two DiL don't count - we're not part of their family. I've been with their son longer than he lived at home. They are happy to eat my food and have me cook for them, but I'm not fit to sit at their table. I cannot think of one situation where my family would not invite OH to a family gathering to which I was invited. I feel like OH is condoning their behaviour by going alongwith them. Please someone tell me their behaviour is unacceptable and that I'm not being oversensitive - am I?
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