I have a strange relationship with my mum.
We get on fine on the surface. She lives in the next town and we see each other often. I am not emotionally close to her and would never confide in her about anything. Our relationship is very superficial.
We had a terrible relationship while I was growing up. She is dependent on alcohol and has been for as long as I can remember.
Since I had my dc she occasionally makes statements like "Now you understand what it's like" (with a big smile) or "you've turned out not too badly" etc. I realise that this is her way of saying it's all ok now, really it was all your fault, but it's water under the bridge.
She takes no responsibility for anything, she has never apologised to me.
I have a lot of issues, nothing too fundamental, but have issues nonetheless. I would rather die than parent the way she did and in some ways we are quite similar so it worries me.
Can anyone relate to this?
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I think my mum might be a narcissist and I don't want to parent like she did
doggiesayswoof · 30/07/2009 12:59
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