I want to visit my brother -but I don't think he wants us to visit!

[LynetteScavo]

For the past few months I have phoned my DB/ SIL - who I know screen their calls, but they always pick up for me.

Each time I sugest we (me and 3DC's) go up to visit them. They live in the country, 2 hours a way. They always agree, and say they will get back with a date. They never do - and now I'm at a loss as what to do. I ealise there weekends are precious, as they work full time, but thier daughter is a similar age to my DD, and she really, really wants to see her cousin who she hasn't seen since Christmas.

DB knows he is welcome to visit us anytime - we live near DM, so he could "kill two birds with one stone" if he comae down here.

Not sure what my next move should be. I have resorted to calling by unexpectedly when I was on my way home from holiday before now.

WWYD?

[LadyOfWaffle]

Make a date. Some people are like that, but don't mean to be, they just never get around to it. Ring and say "come over on X" or say you are free and is it OK to come up?

[randomtask]

I'd call them, with some dates for options and say it would be handy to get it in your diary now.

He might be just badly organised as I sometimes end up doing this with people if they haven't given me a date. I get two months down the line and think 'oh bugger I haven't arranged to see X'.

Good luck!

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Invite the daughter up, for a sleep over!?

[LynetteScavo]

OK - I'll one them with a definate date. Thier daughter is nearly 3, and very shy, so it'll be a while before she comes for a sleep over .

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Maybe it is a bit much for them when all of you come. Would your daughter go for a sleepover at their house, or just a day visit whilst the rest of you go do something else around the area?
Some people find it quite stressful especially if they are quiet people.