I dearly love my mum who is an alcholic but have come to the end of the line with trying to be understanding and supportive of her with her continuous drinking.
She has had a problem most of my life and been in and out of AA and rehab. To cut a long story very short I really can't take trying to support her now when she isn't in a place where she is even trying to recover/stay sober. I have a toddler and 10 week old twins and had quite a frank discussion with her while pregnant to say that my energy really can't be taken up with the alcoholic dramas with 3 small children and also that I don't want them to be around such negative environment which she said she quite understood.
I've been very supportive of the whole one day at a time thing and let it go when she has an off day but she seems to think this gives her license to behave how she wants as there are no consequences to her actions. She truely seems to have no notion that her behaviour effects other people and she is becoming increasing erratic - probably not helped by the fact that we don't tell her because we don't want to upset her. I'm drained with the whole thing.
She herself admits that she is finding it hard to try and get sober now and I feel the only option is to say that I will meet up with her but without the children until she is in a better place mentally, but that is going to be so hard to say. Her attitude is having such a bad effect on me and my family and I've tried every other thing I can think of. Has anyone else had to do anything similar? Any advice/experience would be great - I don't want to cut her off totally because I do love her and want to be there for her but at the moment I don't really like her if that makes sense.
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magnummum · 22/07/2009 08:50
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