Im sad
18 years ago I was a young 17 yr old girl,my friends and I used to go to a nightclub in town-I kind of used to knock about with a bouncer from the club-no sex,just snogging and stuff,this went on for a while and then I found out he had a gf so it stopped.
Shortly after in a drunken stupor I lost my virginity to another man (a bouncer)-to me in my youth everyone was doing it,i was just in that circle and that was the way it went,unfortunately his mates burst in after wed 'done it'and whilst I was embarassed,I im my young self assured way just left and whilst I did speak to him I was never up for a repeat.
Shortly after I met another bloke he was almost 20 years older than me,we have been together 17 years and have 3 dc -unfortunately he too was a bouncer ....and he was at the same club and he saw the incident above.
He knew this before we started dating.
The first man i describe we used to see quite often and he always says he loves me even in front of everyone and dh always says well there you go,shes mine and its a bit of a laugh.(hes even told dh i would never sleep with him).
Well last night we went out on a rare occasion in the pub we saw one of the old team - I dont particularly like him but I was pleasant- well youve guessed it!! he then went on to describe me a promiscuos!!! dh went to the loo and i bollocked this bloke who admitted himself it was nearly 20 years ago i wasnt with dh then and dh knew about it,he hadnt meant to say it but cos he was 'pissed' it just came out .
Dh came back and things were ok.
when we got home he had a go at me and called me a whore and now im dreading today.
I didnt hurt anyone only myself and dh knew all about this before we started its not fair bring it up,I think he should have just said to the bloke 'stop right there it was 20 years ago things change'.
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does this make me a whore??
imnotaslapper · 19/07/2009 09:51
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