Hi i am new to this so forgive me if i ramble on a bit. i was wondering if anyone had some advice, i have been with my partner for five years and have two children from a previous relationship, he also has two. i knew he liked a drink when i met him,so did i every now and then, but it has now gone toofar. he is a lovely man( when sober)but he drinks every night apart from his monday "dry night". when he is drunk he becomes impossible to talk to so i have learnt not to speak after 8 at night. he falls asleep on the sofa and starts snoring loudly, when i try to wake him he becomes aggressive and does not know who i am, if he does he then calls me names. i started to drink more and more just to be on the same level as him and that worked for a while but then realised i could not be a big drinker. my kids are getting older and are now up later and are seeing him swaying and slurring, which upsets me alot. we have not had a physical relationship for a long time as i find a man that wets himself very unattractive. i tried to pretend evrything was ok but he kept saying i had a mental health problem because i did not want to go to bed with him.i was put on anti depressants hoping that that would help but it made things worse as i started seeing things for what they were, a mess. i know it is a disease and i know that he needs support but he has told me that he would have to be near death to stop drinking( i dont think he is that far from it his eyes are becoming more yellow). unfortunately the stress of realising what my life is like and living in a dual relationship,looking after 2 children working full time and also looking after his children when they are here at weekends has put me in hospital with severe headaches. i did not realise that life had all got too much, i broke down when the doctor asked how i was and EVERYTHING came out. i am now on beta blockers at 32 continually on pain killers and scared that i could lose my promotion and the kids because i am so ill. i have lost alot feeling for him and i know that i have a great future ahead for myself but i could lose it all if he continues to drink. tried most things wiht him but he refuses to go to gp which was my condition if we were to stay together. HELP!
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