I have been away for so long and must apologise. We have been really struck down by chickenpox, firstly DS had it quite badly I thought, but that was nothing compared to DD4 and DD3 who is just now getting over it in time for school to break up!
I had it when DD2 was a baby, so sixteen or so years ago, and I thought I would die. I think DD3 has been as poorly as I was.
DH remains at home, esconced in the spare room. The younger DC believe it is because he snores and keeps me awake (well he does/did anyway). DDs1 2 and 3 know the real reason.
It is our first session at Relate tonight, put off several times because of the illness situation, and because, as you all well know, there is nobody I can ask to babysit for me.
DH did go to a session alone. He said he had been worried he would have to lie on a couch or something but seemed pleasantly surprised that it wasn't like that.
I am still very nervous though....
I've probably said a lot of this before but he has admitted at the start it was just a sexual thing, he did it because he could. He admitted that about a year into the affair he began to have feelings for the OW. He felt that there was no intimacy between us, and not much of a sex life.
That is hard for me to accept but I have to don't I, and I accept that it is true, at least in part. We are not the same people we were 27 years ago. 5 DC, working full-time, house and garden and dog all to take care of and no support system takes its toll. You just can't be shagging every night (well, I can't, I don't have the energy).
But we are trying very hard. We sit closer together, we have actually been out as a couple a few times and are planning another couple of evenings out, only to the pictures or something. We are thinking about a couple of nights away for our anniversay next month, although I do fear this a pipe dream as who would have the DC?
Baby steps but I am hopeful.
I will report back once Relate has happened.
Another very big thank you for all your supoprt over the last weeks. I have said before that MN saved my life, and on one occasion literally.......
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