A reasonably good friend of mine told me something yesterday that's upset me so much, i don't think i can be friends with her anymore. She's been married for a couple of years, and has an 18mth old child. She told me yesterday that she's 'seeing' someone else on the side.
She told me she had something to tell me but it was a big secret and i'd probably be cross with her. Then she was so excited telling how she's been meeting someone else, i think that's part of what's made it so terrible. She claims she hasn't slept with him (yet), so i told her that she has a chance now to put a stop to it before it goes too far.
I tried to not be too judgemental, i reminded her that if she continues with this she has to accept she could end up divorced and on her own with the baby, or fighting over custody, or having to explain when her child is older why they split up. The more i've thought about it since though, i am getting more judgemental, and bloody angry tbh.
I'm not naive enough to think that relationships are black and white, but she hasn't even given her DH the chance to put things right in what she says is a 'boring' relationship. She's also jealous of the women her DH works with (he is absolutely not doing anything untoward- she's paranoid and jealous over the very fact they together) and this seems almost to get back at him over nothing. He's a nice guy, and i told her the least she could do is go home and say 'I'm not happy, i'm so unhappy i feel like straying. What can we do about this?' but she hasn't and won't.
What made this really ironic is that when we met to talk, i had a 'secret' to tell her- someone at work propositioned me about having an affair with them but i'd knocked them back.
I'm just having a rant really. She's quite difficult to get on with at times, but it's usually other people who have trouble with her being a bit tempremental etc, we've always got on ok. I don't feel like i want to bother with anymore though. I wish she hadn't told me.
If her DH was a shit, or she'd told him she was bored and he'd ignored her, then i think i'd feel a bit differently. What she's doing just feels all wrong though.
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I don't think i can be friends with her anymore
GoodGrrrlGoneBad · 19/05/2009 07:03
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