I was first diagnosed with severe depression at 19 - the psych I saw then was sure I had been depressed since 14. My mother left our family when I was 12 and it has always been an issue - getting worse with each dc, till I had 3, which is what she had when she decided my Dad's best friend was more important to her than we were.
I struggled when dd1 reached 4, the age that my youngest sib was when mother left us. I struggled again when ds (dc2) was 4, as that was the age my little brother was when she left. Dd2 turning 4 was OK!
I dread the day that dd1 is the age I was (12y3m) when my mum left (she's 9 now). These are all bad occasions for me, no matter what.
By the time I was the age my dd1 is now she wa s already having an affair with her now husband, and y denying ti to my Dad.
After she left, my Dad was a fabby parent and brought us up brillliantly! I was so glad when he married my stepmum when I was almost 15 - he has been so happy!!
But ... I stil suffer from periodic major (in a clinical sense - needing psychiatric intervention, consultants, CPNs etc...) depression
I no longer speak to my mother due to her toxic influnce. But I do wonder is I will ever be well, and what I am passing on to my own dcs!
Its a bugger, isn't it!
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I am a long term depressive - anyone else with experience of neglectful/abusive mothers?
Weegiemum · 19/05/2009 00:14
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