DH appalling with money... not a spendthrift but forgetful and doesn't keep up to date with finances so often takes money out when we can't afford it or on same day a bill comes out. Doesn't pay things on time or takes library books back, runs up fines blahblahblah. Mainly it's forgetfulness and putting things off.
I've proposed (following a £36.00 library fine) that he stops using all cards except for a cashline card. I'll arrange a direct debit for money to go into this account every month, enough for coffee, magazines etc. It's stressful enough sorting all of the families money/finances out while balancing two small children and a job without mopping up after his money mayhem.
He's a bit pissed off at my proposal and I think he feels he makes most of our money so he should have access to it... we need to chat about it but I can't see any way around it. He once let a library fine escalate to the point of debt collectors etc. I've tried writing all our outgoing bills etc on piece of paper and hanging it on the door and giving him a copy for reference but i don't think he looked at it once.
Is my idea de-masculating and an insult or just practical and realistic?
Disclaimer- He's an all round gem apart from this. (I may show him this to help my case)
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blinks · 18/05/2009 16:35
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