Thought it might be appropriate to post this here too:
DH seems to become so bloody grumpy as soon as I come out of a depression - why? It's like he feels inadequate whenever I'm happy.
I've been very well the last few days, but yesterday, his first day off for a while, he's been completely grumpy and horrible. The nicest part of the day was when he was out having a driving lesson.
And he's been a grumpy arse this morning too!
I think some of it may be work, but he's had the same work situation for ages, and it's only when I get better that he gets grumpy.
I'm starting to think that it's me being depressed that helps him cope with any crap going on at work? Or that he feels he only makes an important contribution at home when I'm depressed because the rest of the time I'm so on top of things?
Has anyone else had this? Can anyone offer some advice because right now I'm thinking I'm going to pretend to be depressed the whole time if it's the only way I can make him at all pleasant to be with!
He spend a lot of time saying 'I''m crap' whenever I say the slightest thing that could remotely be percieved as criticism like 'Has DD4's nappy been changed?'.
It's so frustrating because I can see why it is, but have no idea how to stop it! Except for being depressed! It's making my happy times miserable sad
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flamingobingo · 18/05/2009 07:44
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