Ex has just rung me up to tell me he has taken drugs again,and if only I had let him stay at my house tonight as he wanted, it would never have happened.
Apparently I have anger issues, I am unreasonable, i have changed from the lovely person I once was, when i would have done anything for him. Now I am just destructive, not right for him, he needs someone who will be there for him. He wants to stop taking drugs so i must work as a partnership to help him... ie do whatever he needs to help him stop, have him in the house or whatever.
He has told me he wanted to stop all the last 4 years.
Despite being a successful professional, he has left me in vast debt (about 36k) from bullying, manipulating, threatening, lying and stealing money from me.
This last week alone he has threatened to break my windows if i don't let him in, has threatened to break things in the house if I don't hand him cash,has ranted and raved and told me dangerous dealers know where I live and could hurt me or the kids if I don't give him cash.
When i did allow him to stay overnight (in spare room) when he said how much he needed to be here to give him strength to resist drugs,and wanted to make it up to me and dd1 for him going n all day - he then spent the whole following day in bed,"tired",while I looked after 3 year old & 8 month old baby on little sleep.
He shows scant regard for any of the needs and rights of me or our children, yet I am the one who is letting us all down by finally realising he does nothing but make our lives more and more unstable by the day - has left us in mortgage arrears and with no money to buy anything the kids need, or finish fixing the house so me and the kids basically pretty much live in my bedroom.
cannot believe he can tell me I have anger issues for being angry at all the above, and that it is me who is at fault for not rallying round and doing everything he needs and wants
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onlygotonelife · 18/05/2009 02:07
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