My partner has always been very low on confidence. To the extent where he wouldn't even wear a different style of shirt incase anyone noticed and commented. He wouldn't change his hairstyle or anything.
Then a few weeks ago he told me he'd had "an epithany". He said he'd suddenly realised that it didn't matter what anyone else thought or said, nothing mattered because in 100 years, we'll all be dead anyway and the small stuff won't even be remembered.
So that day, to prove to me that he meant it, he went and shaved his head (not bald, no.2) and wore a red shirt, something he would never have done before and his personality seemed really different in a way I just can't put my finger on.
Next day was monday morning and he became panicky about going to work with the new hairstyle. To cut a long story short, he eventually went and came home saying he'd dealt with it by creating another persona. He was calling this other side to him "andy". I laughed it off, he said he knew it sounded silly but it gave him a confidence boost pretending to be someone else for a few minutes until everyone had commented on the hair.
What is worrying me is that this "andy" thing has stayed and he's doing it quite a lot. For instance the neighbours were playing really loud music all last night and DP was afraid to go around until he decided "andy" wouldn't be afraid and he went around under this persona and sorted it out.
This morning we were due at a BBQ and before we went he said to me "do you think I should go as myself or Andy?"
I think it's gone too far and is now wierd rather than helpful. Am I over-reacting?
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Should I be worried about his mental health?
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SweetMaryJesus · 17/05/2009 20:46
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