I am unsure of whether I am being paranoid and delusional as my life has dramatically changed in the last two years with the addition of two little ones. Briefly (as I have been told I waffle):
I am miles from my real home, I dont have many friends and I think my partner is controlling, he is a 'boss' but tends to have this attitude with me. We live, work and socialise together so there is little time for myself and obviously with a 1 and a 2 year old, things are strained but we argue a lot now. He has an aggressive temper and flares up very very easily. I am a fairly lighthearted person as I believe sometimes I deal with things better this way, but this just seems to aggravate him. I am always very busy with the kids, house, home and other accounts and affairs and try to keep the kids as quiet as poss as I worry he will flare up over screams and cries (he works from home).
Last week we had a horrid row in front of the kids (please understand I tried to avoid this) and I was called a lazy bitch and a dirty bitch (I left a nappy - wrapped up in a fragrant nappy bag on the kitchen floor to take outside).
Today we had a row over a very silly throw away comment I said and as he got angry again I started to cry - which I hate. He called me a f***g wimp and said we may as well split up. An hour or so ago, we started to talk again but I feel it will all just happen again soon. No matter what I do I cant win. I feel raw and confused, please can someone guide me or send a message of advic as I dont feel able to talk to anyone.
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Is this mental abuse? I am confused, please help.
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FrancyMgo · 17/05/2009 16:19
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