OK, I need some advice and perspective.
Some of you know what's been going on with my marriage recently. Well, I never did phone WA, and I spoke to a RL friend instead. I explained to her that he'd grabbed me and shaken me angrily more than once in our marriage.
He's lovely one minute and really mean the next - just last night he was sitting on the end of the bed telling me I was lazy and didn't do anything and the kids are copying me, and then this morning he's all helpful and wants me to go to the GP (for depression) where a few weeks ago he was really against it. He keeps me up late to 'talk things over', even though he knows I'll be really tired, and when I say I want to go to sleep, he gets really cross about me 'refusing to talk' and face up to my issues blah blah blah.
When I go to bed early to try and off-set this, I can hear him downstairs, stomping about and just feel really scared.
I explained some of this to my friend, and she told me that she couldn't really believe that I was facing any abuse because I was such a gobby woman anyway, and I gave as good as I got with my mouth. She basically said that when he tells me I'm pushing his buttons that I am, and need to stop and then everything will be fine. She said loads of couples wind each other up to the point of one shaking the other, and it really wasn't a big deal.
I've been trying to pluck up the courage to phone WA again, but I'm hearing her and thinking that they're just going to tell me the same sort of thing. So am I being a drama queen? Should I just stop being selfish and get on with it?
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KayHarkerDoesNotSimper · 16/05/2009 15:46
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