so i had a lovely DS 5 months ago and in all that time my husband and i have only attempted to relight the bedroom flame once...and it was disasterous. we only had sex once while i was pregnant, so it had been a really REALLY long time.
this rubbish attempt was a couple of nights ago, we were both uber self-conscious and it kind of felt like we were forcing it and were just not 'feeling' it. the baby monitor didnt help coz we could hear all his little stirrings! also i couldn't get DH 'in' (too much info i know!) because it hurt loads and kind of felt like there was a lot less room in there if you get my drift. wasn't expecting that - i thought my bits would be looser if anything. plus i had to keep my bra on avec breast pads lest there be any leakage - lovely romantic notion that.
im despairing really because i would like to have sex again at some point (not least of all so we can have more kids!) but at this point i just don't know how we can ever get the groove back - it seems too far gone! and do i have the energy and inclination to work that hard to get it back?? ugghhh.
has anyone else been where i am now and made it the other side? is it possible to feel sexy again when you're little more than a sleep deprived milk machine? is there anything i can do to try and get the zing back into my libido?
help!!!
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will i ever be able to have sex again???
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alannabanana · 15/05/2009 23:15
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