I posted on here a few weeks ago regarding my DP and his apparant disinterest in sex.
Quick recap ...
We had been together 4 months. In that time I had slept over there 3 times (on his invite) and not once did he initiate sex.
So basically, after 4 months we had still not had sex. We had, however .. kissed and cuddled in bed.
Last time I posted on here, it was more or less decided that he was being a gentleman and that I should initiate it.
So last night, we get in bed and we start kissing, it got heavier and I could 'feel' that he was aroused yet his hands stayed firmly on my stomach/waist so I guided them to my chest area. He touched me for a while and the kissing got heavier still, his hands wondered downwards and it basically turned to foreplay. But ... he kept stopping and saying "I better let you get to sleep before I go too far" and "I'm sorry, my hands are wondering" etc etc I was getting a bit impatient with him to be honest. I couldn't have made it ANY clearer ... I even took anyfuckers advice and "grabbed his nob" to see what would happen ... he enjoyed that, but still didn't try and take it any further.
We went to bed at 12am and it was now getting on for 3am, we'd been doing the same thing for almost 3 hours and it was getting tedious. I pushed things further, pushed him as far as I thought it possible to push any man! and he finally climbed on top of me and said "do you want to?" ffs - I said "yes" so the kissing continued and he suddenly stopped and said "I won't be a minute, just need to go and use the bathroom"
oh ffs ....
So he goes downstairs, I look at the clock, 3.20am ... I'm thinking "fuck this, it's not worth the hassle" and turn over to go to sleep ... about 15 minutes later he comes back upstairs, gets into bed and kisses me (not very pasionately) and then says "sorry, I think I've spoilt the mood a bit now, havn't I?" I reply "yes" and went to sleep.
Next morning he apologised and said it was because he was tired
Am I right in thinking this is far from normal behaviour?? I don't know what to do next ... and to be honest it's putting me off him.
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Still no sex, despite initiation - what now?
SickOfTheMaleSpecies · 09/05/2009 21:24
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