have u every been in love with sum1 u shouldnt have?

[wonderif]

I think i am in love with my bro in law.

would never do anything about it, wouldnt , just wouldnt go there to much to lose, to many people would get hurt.

just looking for others perspectives on this how to u get past this stage.

he had feelings for me years ago but he has met someone now and i hope he has moved on.

[HuwEdwards]

I doubt you're in love and suspect it's merely a crush mixed with the excitement of wanting someone you know you can't have.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

[Overmydeadbody]

I tihnk you are confusing the word love with lust really. I've fancied plenty of people that I shouldn't, but you can't really love someone you don't know in an intimate way can you?

The easiest way to get past it is to not think about it at all. Compartmentalise, put your feelings for him in a box and don't ever open the lid.

[breadandroses]

Do we have to have text-speak in thread titles?

[wonderif]

yeh i suppose u could be right the thing is i cant stop thinking about him.

driving me insane.

guess its time to put things to the side and get on with r lifes

[Lulumama]

it;s a crush

you want him now because you feel there is unfinished business as he used to have feelings for you, and now you have both moved on

ignore it, and make sure you are busy and distract yourself from it

you are not in love, you have a crush

[FrankMustard]

he has met someone else, you say - and he's your BIL? Who is the someone else, your sister? Or is he the brother of your dh?
I'm confused....

[wonderif]

sorry about the text speak didnt realise it was a no go rule. sorry

i dont know about the intimate thing but i would i say that you can love someone without being intimate with them.

but no ur right its just lust and the excitement of what if.

i know that if the situation arouse i could end up in doing sumthing i regretted and i know there is a good chance it would be reciprocated.

[wonderif]

brother of dh yes.

[IwoulddoDrWho]

Don't.

[IwoulddoDrWho]

Sorry. thought it was a Buzzcocks thread but then I raed it and felt compelled to give advice. However, don't.

[FrankMustard]

Bizarre how you didn't even mention your own dh til directly asked how you and bil are related...
Maybe you need a romantic getaway with your own dh instead of thinking about his brother!

[wonderif]

no i wont ever i do love my dh ( i know it doesnt sound like it but i do)

and even though when we first got together he was a twat and it was his brother who was always there for me i still wouldnt have done it, i could have then with no doubts.

but u dont go there u just cant can u.

just needed to speak about it thats all

thanks for advice peeps

[FrankMustard]

You sounds like you've got it sorted in your own mind, which is good.
If you love your dh, why not try and rekindle things a bit with him and that would fill any void that you are filling with thoughts of your bil.
Good luck

[TBCoalman]

No, I haven't ever been in love with someone I shouldn't have. If I start to fancy someone innapropriate, I avoid conversations with them. You can't fall in love with someone you don't speak to.

[wonderif]

frankmustard tbh we r very much together me and my dh and have a great sex life.

tbcoalman thats grand but i cant very well stop speaking to my bil can i.

thanks glad i have it sorted anyway,