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[MamaMeercat]

My two boys (10 and 8) have known my partners daughter (12)for around 6 months and have spent alot of time together.

However my eldest DS and his daughter have become really close and whilst it's nice that they're always together, I'm wondering if they're two young for me to be "concerned" about it?

My DS is very 'beyond his years' and acts a lot older than he is. Therefore I'm worrying that they're maybe becomming "too" close.

For instance, they have started locking themselves in her bedroom. The other night they were up there for hours making no noise or anything. DS2 eventually came down complaining that he had no one to play with as "DS1 was too busy snogging his girlfriend".

DP went up to check on them and found them lying side by side on the bed writing a story together. All innocent but DP told her to leave her door open in future. We then wondered if we were being ridiculous as they were only 10 and 12. If they were 13+ I would be very worried by now.

Another thing, in the car on the way home the other day, she started to feel a little ill ... I turned around to see her cuddled up to DS. I thought "aww sweet" but in the back of my mind I thought it was a little unusual. I then heard DS whisper to her "I thought you didn't want anyone to get the wrong idea ... actually, I shouldn't have said that" and she smacked him.

Am I over-reacting or should I keep an eye on things, despite their age?

(posted this in AIBU too but think it may fit here better)

[LauriefairycakeeatsCupid]

definitely keep an eye on things. She can get pregnant even before the start of her periods.

I would have a talk with them about looking after each other and their bodies and have some firm rules about doors open at all times.

[atterual]

go with your gut and your suspicions. I would be really panicking by now. They are so grown up, even at that age.

[Rhubarb]

I would ask your partner to have one of those chats with his dd, and you should have one with your ds.

Just explain about self-respect and the importance of waiting until you are ready. You could also mention about the age of consent and what could happen to both of them if they decide to ignore this.

At 12 she's a lot more aware than he is and a lot more mature. So from now on I would tell them both that you are keeping a close eye on things.