We are having a repeated cycle I can't live with forever-how do I break it?

[smileymumma]

Help! Again I turn to Mumsnet! I have been dealing with this viscious cycle of stuck in a rut behaviour that me and hubby get into, I am now starting to think that although opposites attract that we may just be too different to manage long term.What do you outsiders think?
DH is caring,kind, hard working,even sexy good father etc so people look at me as if i am crazy when I moan but it is driving me mad now.we have a young family, business and are very busy people in general my DH isn't very sociable in that he works hard comes home and thats it!!!! literally he wants to be at home that is great but he doesn't do much with the kids unless i make him and he switches off from friday to monday-my house ends up a tip the kids fight and I get to be stuck in yet again with no conversation, needless to say I am dying form Moday to arrive so that we can get some kind of routine established.Don't get me wrong I know it is vital to relax when so busy but i feel like any SAHM that I just want to see people talk some adult sense have a drink and generally unwind, our social habbits/weekend differences are bothering me lots now,I feel isolated lonely, and as if I am always the one to give in and stay home,as we have done again all weekend and watch more telly!!! roll on tomorrow.He also seems oblivious to it all.

[PortBlacksandResident]

Hmmm - it's hard as you stay at home all week and are desperate to go out and he is the opposite.

Do you have any friends you can invite over for a take away? Do you have family who could baby sit so you can go out - maybe to somewhere you used to go so he can see what you've both become like? You may have to bite the bullet and go out anyway either with other friends with children or leave the children with him (make him pull his weight at home).

We're stuck in a rut a bit too - but it is getting better as our DCs get a bit older.

[HappyWoman]

It is hard when the dc are little. It takes a huge effort to go out too but could you try that?