In the 4yrs that dh and I have been married his mother has constantly interfered in every aspect of our relationship I have over that time ignored most of what she says and does,
but every so often she does something that just winds me up so much that I just want to scream at her to leave us alone.
Her favourite subject at the minute is how we raise our ds 3.3yrs. When ds was 2 he developed a lazy eye which we are treating with glasses and an eyepatch, we have been told that the vision in the lazy eye is weak but the movement in the eye is improving but if the lazy eye doesn't correct completley over time ds will be offered corrective surgery, the orthoptist has emphasised that this would be purely cosmetic and wouldn't improve the vision at all.
Well ds recently started pre school and MIL keeps banging on about how other children will pick on ds because of his eye, My view on this is that even the most physically perfect children get picked on and even if ds didn't have glasses and a patch he could still get picked on because thats what children are like.
But she keeps pushing the issue saying that we should have the op done, (it hasn't even been offered yet). We moved house last month and she walked in and sat infront of ds and said to me... Well now youv'e got the house, all you need is HIS eye sorting out and everything will be perfect, I just looked at her and said HE is perfect.
Its just this sort of comment that winds me up, I mean here she is going on about other children picking on ds and IMO she is in her own way picking on him by constantly making negative comments about his eye.
I'm not saying we won't have the op done but surely thats a decision me and dh will make when the time comes.
As I mentioned ds started pre school recently and he didn't settle to well in the beginning, MIL has even told me that its my fault because i'm a SAHM and I didn't send him to a childminder. She says I should have gone back to work like she did when she had her DC.
Sorry to rant but she makes me so mad, I just wish I could have it out with her but she isn't a nice person, I've seen her in a rage and I don't want to be on the receiving end... How do I deal with this without causing a huge row? I just want her to back off and trust that i'm a good mum, our dc are happy and healthy can't she just be happy with that??
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How do I tell MIL that I don't want her constant unwanted and unhelpful opinions and comments!!
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Dragonfly74 · 04/05/2009 12:21
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