hi 3 weeks ago dh told me after a year or us both being unhappy, ( been married for 16 years 3 kids under 15) that he did not love me and that he wanted to seperate. he moved into the dining room, saying that there was a chance we could work it out. i was devastated, and tried to get him to reconsider, and try to work it out. he refused. i finally got him to admit after 4 days, there was no hope and he did not want to try again, he was just trying to let me down gently.
we rent a house in joint names, so legally i cant get him to leave. it is all amicable at the moment, but i too have realised, it is a release, he has been a mental bully for years. i have rowed with him over the kids, money etc, and have no sadness now after the shock has worn off, about his lack of love. he is unemployed short term so cannot afford to move out. his family live 100 miles away, and he says he has no friends here, so no where to go. we have seperated the finances and claimed benefit as he always had control of the money. i feel stronger, but still feel he is manipulating the situation his own way, he even wants to ask the kids indiviually where they want to live, seperating them if one wants to stay and one wants to go. i feel this is terrible. i have said he will hve to see me in court, to seperate the kids. they are 15 12 and 6.
i feel stronger but worried what else he will throw at me. he just wont leave so we can move on.
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seperated from dh, but he says cant leave, as has no money
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woblybot · 03/05/2009 01:07
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