Im a regular, namechanger as know dh does tend to lurk about here....
My relationship with my IL's has always been hard, since dh & I married and came to ahead once dd was born.
Arguments, cross words, nasty things said to me and never any apologies. BUT somehow they came back into our "family".
If it wasn't for dh I would gladly never speak to them BUT they are his parents and I can't tell him to stop contact.
I find the whole meeting up business fake and all they are interested in are the dk's.We get guilt if we don't see them weekly and tbh its becoming a chore..well always has.Not just I BUT dh never seems to have much to say to them or about them and says his relationship is ruined with them (which indirectly I know he blames me for.)
Dh thinks im "fecking mental" (his words, not mine) and that I need ad's BUT I'm not. Im just tired of the fakeness and the sickness I feel with they spend time with my dk's.
They rarely have the dk's alone BUT when needed its never straight forward. Always some issue that they always end up doing something unneeded iykimw. As though they do things to point out to us that they have control.
I don't know what to do but im at the end. Its saddening me and tbh I would easily walk away from dh and explain my actions to my dk's when they are older.
I see no other solution. I can't ask dh to break all contact yet if I was to do so then surly thats problem solved.?
Going our seperate ways would be a huge upheaval. Mean me getting a job (sahm atm) and the dk's going to nursery BUT part of me thinks that would be a doddle compared to cringing when the il's turn up....
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
am I mad to want to walk away from this....?
18 replies
thesunisout · 02/05/2009 14:30
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.