Ok, so we have decided to have a low-key family only wedding, then a party for family and friends the day after.
To my mind, low key means a simple, brief ceremony followed by drinks and dinner in a nice restaurant. Informal dress for me, no bridesmaids etc.
DP is insistent that his 'best man' comes to the wedding. He is seeing it as a formal occaision, whereas I have in mind something much more informal. I really don't see the need for a best man (plus he isn't family!!), but it's clouded by the fact that i also don't particularly like the best man - and DP knows this. Me and Best Man have only ever spoken about 2 words, to be honest I think he resents me slightly.
So, do I 'give in' and agree to the best man coming, only to be slightly annoyed that he is there, or really put my foot down? I have some close female friends who also know DP really well and we've spent a lot of time with as a couple - I would feel wrong to have 1 of his friends present who doesn't 'know' us as a couple, at the expense of my own friends, but as soon as we start inviting friends, the whole thing starts to snowball.
Help! How do I get out of this predicament, as at the moment I'm very stubbornly thinking about cancelling the whole thing!
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MildWest · 01/05/2009 18:10
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