So i left him im doing ok, but he text me to tell me he was on a date and im now so upset

[shoptilidrop]

basically the title says it all. I left him, not really though any choice though. Rock and a hard place situation really. Im doing ok and just had 2 of the best days ive had in about 6 months. I actually felt happy. Properly happy, not pretending to be happy iykwim.
Im at work on my own today, Luckily. He text he at 10am to tell me that he was on a date last night and that he wasnt trying to rub my face in it, but didnt want to lie. Firsty, why start telling the truth now, not like he hasnt constantly lied for the last 10 years.
Secondly, im really really hurt. Ive been crying for about 2 hours now and i just cant stop. I dont know why really. I didnt want to get back with him. I know im better off and will be happier. But it just hurts so so much. We havent even been spilt up for more than a few months. All my focus has been on our daughter and trying to make her settled and sheild her from as much pain as i can. It appears all his focus has been on getting laid. ( why change the habbit of a lifetime).
FUCKER
C**T

I was doing ok and now i feel like total shit again. Fucker.

Sorry for the rant and the swear words, if anyone has any words of wisdom id appreciate it.

[Overmydeadbody]

Bastard.

He only told you to hurt you. Don't give him that. Rise above it. He is stooping very low indeed to do that.

Anyone can get laid, it takes a lot of effort and hard work to do what you are doing, so you are the winner here, not him.

Bastard.

[shoptilidrop]

I know. thanks.
I know that.
Ill be the winner ( theres not really any winners though is there)
i know im better off

Byt knowing that doesnt take away any of the pain does it.

AND its his weekend to have dd, ( but not overnight) so now ive got to face him 4 times over the weeknd

I fucking hate him

[BunnyAndJoon]

So now that you are split up he lets you know that he has seen someone else. He never bothered with that when you were together did he?

Tosswipe and a twunt, he is

I would feel sorry for her, whoever she is.



You are doing so well. You have been happy and you will be happy.

[Overmydeadbody]

Of course you are hurt and there will be a lot of pain to get through, but as you said yourself you are properly happy now, you'll get through this.

When you see him, be indiffferent. Don't mention his text, don't show any interest in him whatsoever beyond what is necessary for your daughter's welfare. He wants to know if you still care, show him you don't.

Plan something really nice just for you to do while you have a break from DD, even if it is just window shopping and having a coffee in town.

Make a list of all the great things about being single, all the ways your life is better off without him, and focus on the positive.

[thesilverlining]

just wanted to add some support with swearing.....

what a cock

he so wanted to see your reaction. Like you give a shit? And that is what you must tell him - appreciate the honesty mate but frankly I couldn't give a toss what you do with your time so unless its about our DD lets skip the small talk ok?

HTH

[knockedgymnast]

I wouldn't believe a word of it.

It seems to me, to be the run of the mill thing for someone to say, to be spiteful!!

[knockedgymnast]

I wouldn't believe a word of it.

It seems to me, to be the run of the mill thing for someone to say, to be spiteful!!

[mrsboogie]

seems an odd thing to do - so early in the morning to be thinking to tell his ex that he got laid last night. Most blokes would be keeping that to themselves. Either he is trying to make you jealous or he is trying to stick the knife in.

At least he told you by text and not face to face so you have a chance to gather yourself and come across all disinterested.

[TheScatterGunApproach]

Knobend. (him, not you!)

Don't show him it has gotten to you. He is trying to hurt you.

[elastamum]

He is a fucker. My H did this to me this week also about his new girlfriend. I told him very bluntly that I didnt want to know anythig about his life that didnt affect the kids as this was no longer part of our relationship. He is only doing it as he wants to prove something to you. What a saddo

[solidgoldSneezeLikeApig]

Yup, he's doing it to wind you up. Don't reply to the text, don't react at all, have no communication with him that's not about the DC. It will drive him nuts because he's obviously one of those men who can;t stand the thought that you're not thinking about him all the time.