How many lovers have you had?

[austinsmam]

And have you ever discussed it with current partner.

[Overmydeadbody]

that's assuming we all have current partners

[macdoodle]

oooh my XH hated that I had had any think he wanted me to be a virgin !
Not had this discussion with new DP !
Lets just say its into double figures and leave it there

[MadamAnt]

Three and yes.

[austinsmam]

what is too many??

what is too few??

[Claire2009]

Currently single. Have been for 2yrs now (last r/s d/v so in no rush anyway!).

But 15 'lovers'..

[MrsTittleMouse]

This was the first conversation that I ever had with my now DH. Let's just say that we were very very drunk.

I'm not telling you lot our numbers though!

[ABetaDad]

One

[MrsMattie]

No comment. He's never asked. I've never asked. We know about each other's significant others. No desire to tell DH about any flings or one night stands, or to know about his . It's not a secret, but it's not really a topic of convo, either.

[SparklyGothKat]

3 and yes

[Hohumblushing]

Name changed for this.

To be honest, I don't know the total number. I think it's around 30 or 35, though can't say with any certainty. But also, I supposed you'd need to define 'lover' - for me, fumbling around with someone impotent, having it slip in and then fall out again, doesn't really count in my book!

[AnarchyAunt]

Several

And no, not specific numbers anyway. Though tbh DP knows about a fair few of them as we were friends for nearly 10 years before we got together.

He is not the type to want me to have been a virgin 'til we met, and if he was I would not be with him.

[Deemented]

Many. And hubbs knew, and wasn't bothered. Three figures easily.

[austinsmam]

how old were you, when you met hubs Dee?

[helsbels4]

Bloody hell, I'm starting to think I've missed out somewhere along the line!

I've known my now dh since we were 15/16 and been with him since I was eighteen - am now thirty nine

Had a couple of crushes before him but he's my only "lover". What have I missed???!!!!!

[Poledra]

ABetaDad, why the for one? Why do people feel that the number matters? For the record, I have had quite a few more partners than my DH - none of them count anymore, because the loving sex I have with him far outweighs any pleasures remembered from the others.

[ShowOfHands]

Just the one.

[jellyjelly]

i have had about 25 ish, i cant remember and i dont think it is that important. However my last girlfriend has 237 and that made me sick. We split soon after.

I will be having a conversation with my next one before getting into bed.

[random]

not enough

[Hulababy]

1

Was DH so yes he is fully aware Same for Dh too as far as I am aware.

[Lizzylou]

Far more than DH, we have the conversation and have been together since we were 23.

[Yurtgirl]

One

[Lizzylou]

"we have had the conversation"

[19fran76]

Helsbels4 You've missed a lot of mediocre to poor sex in the main with some memorable sexiness at times but not nearly often enough!! Ha! Ha! Grass is not greener if you love the one you're with (presuming they're a decent lover too, natch).

[itchyandscratchy]

I think I must be what is commonly known as a slaaaaaaaaaag.

Have had several periods of promiscuity between long-term relationships but has just been dh for the last 10 years.

But mine is a lot. Not that I regret it really though.... it's just more than many people

anyone else got a long list?

[ABetaDad]

Poledra - it was an ironic because young blokes always like to pretend they have had loads of women.

I am actually very happy about it.