After 23 years my XP and I have agreed to split up. It's my decision - I haven't been happy for some time. We have drifted apart and although I have felt this way before I have never actually had the strength to do anything about it. I have realised that my XP was also very controlling.
Now that the decision has been made and he is coming to terms with it can anyone please offer any practical advice. I'm not sure where to start??
I have opened a sole bank account and informed the Inland Revenue for Tax Credits purposes and have also had a free 30 minute session with a solicitor.
I'm trying to avoid paying for further legal advice if at all possible.
Solicitor said I will get 50% of house equity and that XP should be paying 25% of his salary as maintenance for our 3 DCs (age 15/13/11). He hit the roof when I mentioned that though. To be honest I just want out and if I can do it without his help then I will.
Can anyone please offer any advice on where to start? Have had house valued and will now put on market but not sure what to do next.
Sorry this is so long.
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Practical advice after a relationship break-up please
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Bowbelles · 18/04/2009 00:55
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