Well he has gone again, this is the 3rd and last time, I told him if he went again I wouldn't take him back.
He said the most cruel things this morning, I asked if he hated me and he said hate was a strong word but 'he does really dislike me' and 'I mean absolutely nothing to him apart from I'm the mother of his daughter', how cruel is that.
He also said his life is going to harder than mine now as he has to pay two lots of childcare (kids from previous marriage), rent and half our mortgage, he earns £1000 month more than me, how the hell is his life harder than mine. I'm left on my own running a 4 bed home with a 20 month old, selfish tw-t!!
Anyway, he wants to live in our house in the spare bedroom and I said I can't live with someone who thinks so little of me? He also wants to take our daughter (20 months) overnight to his parents two hours away, I have never spent a night away from her, can he make me let him, where do I stand legally? I would NEVER stop him from seeing her as she needs her Daddy, but at the same time I feel distraught that I will have to let her go to him at weekend
Also do I qualify for any benefits, I earn £24,000 pa for 4 days a week, no debts, £1000 mortgage, £530 childcare and I suppose I will get £200 from him eventually. I can't bear the thought of trundling off to the benefits office at the moment?
Words of wisdom required please, but be gentle with me
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He has left me for the 3rd time, need some advice?
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mummytowillow · 16/04/2009 22:05
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