Hi long term lurker first time poster, wanted to post for a while but just felt too pathetic.
Have 4 kids two of each two at primary, one at nursery and one baby, ages ranging from 1 to 9. I work 4 days a week and live in a really lovely part of the country in a good safe area where kids can play down the woods and play out till the street lights come on, from a working class background so still sound very local but have a degree which i am very proud of and have a good professional job.
so far so good but i'm so damn lonely as I have no friends. Always been an issue but i mostly enjoy own company and love reading so get by. However its when i see all the other mums around here getting on, making friends, walking to school, visiting each other for coffee that I just feel really sad.
lot of these other mums i know their face from baby groups, tumble tots, school over the years but have never managed to click. I then see these mums get on with other mums in the area and I'm like what was so wrong with me? Is really quite soul destroying to see them all walk to school and hang about having conversations and making arrangemennts whilst i just get a hello. How can i turn this round and be likeable? lots of the threads on this subject say wait till your kids are at school then you'll make friends but I'm well past that point. I'm not good at small talk but think i'm ok at one to ones, but everyone seems to have their friends and not need another. My dh works nights which does not help the loneliness as i have not been out in over 5 years, family are half an hour away but not any help and my life is work, look after children and no sign of release for me. Sorry for this sounding so pathetic but it does get me down, on the plus side my children are very popular and confident, just their parents don't seem to go beyond the plesantries
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lampwick · 12/04/2009 21:33
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