I have been with DP almost five years. We started ttc in May 2006. 2 MCs later I am faced with the prospect of IVF. Three years of ttc has played havoc with my sex life. Excuse how crude I am about to be, but I feel like a peice of meat being banged to produce offspring most of the time. This is all in my head, not anything to do with how my DP treats me. He is truly the sweetest, most loving, strong, considerate and grounded person I have ever known.
However, a few months ago, I felt so unattractive, confused and compulsive I had an affair. We only had sex once but the texts and emails went on for months. What I did was wrong but DP never found out. In the meantime, I have had waves of complete domestic bliss and total panic, where I just want to run away. I feel like I am a bad person, ungrateful but then I feel a compulsion to be reassured that I am attractive and that sex can still be good. So I have been drawn to others also. I haven't been unfaithful (physically) apart from that one time since, but it is more due to circumstance than restraint on my part.
I am just so confused and don't know why I am doing these things. I thought of going for counselling but my doctor would need to refer me for a psychiatric treatment for me to get it on my private medical insurance and I can't even verbalise what is wrong with me! Any thoughts? Feel free to abuse me, I know what I have done is slutty and wrong. But I feel like I might do it again and I don't want to.
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TTC has made me go a bit mad....
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MissUndercover · 29/03/2009 11:39
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