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had to physically restrain friends partner from beating her, its brought it all back.

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fattiemumma · 09/02/2009 12:36

my friend and her partner have had a rocky relationship for some time now. they have been arguing and threatening to split for months.

they have recently started getting anonnymous texts both to her and her partner saying that she has been cheating, its all false but obviously this has added to the stress the relationship was already under.

I have tried being the voice of reason to both of them as i consider them both to be friends. i suggested that they take some time apart and just sort out what it is they want from the relationship.

they agreed over the weekend that he would move out on Sunday.
sunday comes and he seem's to be making no effort to sort his things and so friend says something like "when are you going to start packing?"

a huge row erupts. after lord knows how long my friend calls me in tears, he is blaming me for teh anonnymous texts ( i know he doesn't believe it to be me deep down but he is angry and upset) whilst on the phone i can hear them both screaming and shouting at each other. then she mentions that her DD is still in teh house as he has refused to take her to his mothers for a while. i offer to come and collect her as it is unfair to make her witness such an explosive argument.

I call over and they are stills creaming and shouting. I manage to convince him to take DD to her grans.
I wait for him to return to try and calm them both down enough to speak to each other. individually they could be calmed but as soon as they were together they just exploded into rage again.

next thing i know they areboth upstairs and i hear a crash and bang. i run up to see whats happend and my friend is laying holding her face on the floor. He is sat beside her claiming she punched him.

I tell him to just go as they clearly can't sort anything out like this. i try and usher him downstairs but then he just turns and starts trying to kick at her. i grab him and get between them ( thankfully i am huge and he is physically much smaller than me) but it took every ounce of muscle in my body to stop him from literally stamping on her.
even with me restraining him he continued trying to get at her for a good couple of minutes.

it honestly looked like a scene frm a saturday night drunken brawl. it was awful.

he then left.

I tried to stay strong for the sake of my friend but i was so shaken.
Its been 4 years since i left my ex and i thought i was over it all, but its really bought it all back to me.
i was just glad NM was here when i got back.

Iwould never ever have considered him to be aviolent. i think im just as in shock as my ffriend tbh.

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fattiemumma · 09/02/2009 12:50

whats worse is that for teh first time i got to experience the violence from an outsiders PoV. it showed me just what my son must have gone through every day.

it makes me feel sick.

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