Things have changed, is there anyway to get the love back?

[Longo]

Can you survive an affair that wasn't physical? Help me get over it!
A bit of history may help explain...
When I was pregnant DP struggled with the thought of the responsibilty and pretty much ignored the preganancy, except to other people when he played the excited father to be.
i was working quite alot, doing night shifts to save up enough money to cope financially on maternity leave, I stupidly encouraged DP to spend time with our joint friend who I trusted 100%. How wrong I was, they spent all their free time together before long, they would go out even when i wasn't working. They worked in a pub together and would go out together afterwards. I would come home in the morning and find friend on sofa and DP in bed. I thought nothing of it as I trusted them. This got to a silly point where I never saw DP without our friend, our relationship was in tatters as people were talking. On a night out when I was 6 months pregnant, it came out that DP had told friend he had more than friendship feelings for her, he said they had gone now and was sorry.I forgave him as was pregnant and scared of doing it all alone. I said they could stay friends as long as they stayed away from each other while I dealt with it all. They couldn't do it and met up while I went away for 5 days. The final straw was when DP said he wanted to spend birthday night with the lads, i agreed. He invited her and lied to my face about inviting her. I ended it and went to stay with my mum for a couple of days. Their friendship was back on track now I was gone. DP contacted me and asked for another go, I said we could as long as she was no longer part of our lives, something i really didn't want to do as she was my best friend before all this happened.
He took a couple of days to make his decision which tore me up inside but they fell out and they haven't spoken since.
Now our daughter is six months old and we love her more than anything, he's a great dad and I can't fault him with that.
Now the relationship has died, we have nothing to talk about other than DD, we haven't had sex since i was 4 months pregnant, sex was a major part of our relationship before and i really miss it. We both talk about it and say we'll do it but after everything that has happened I have no confidence and self esteem to iniate sex and he won't.
Help me, I love him but can't continue like this!

[HolyGuacamole]

Wow, what a horrible thing to go through. I guess that a positive thing is that you both acknowledge there is a problem and talk about it. That is a start. What are your feeling now regarding what happened with OW?

[Longo]

I feel like there is something hanging over me stopping me from feeling completely happy. As i'm on maternity leave i've got alot of time to think which isn't good!