married for 5 yrs to DH. he is wonderful, funny and kind, good looking, smart ... he is everything i ever wanted and more. i love him and i am proud of him. he is a lovely father to dd (12 mths) and looks after her two days a week.
BUT ... he is unemployed and intends on staying that way. reasons are;
- he has chronic fatigue
- he hates small talk
- he writes music and would like any spare time when he feels well to be dedicated to this (he does not make money from music)
i make good money in my job and it will only get better (i am a lawyer). but i feel somehow like the arrangement isnt fair, i only took 6mths maternity leave with dd and when we have other babies i would like much longer. also i worry what people think of us, whether they think i am being taken for a ride or whether he is a na'er do well. and if he stays unemployed (has been for 3 yrs) does that mean he will NEVER work...
i sound like shallow and evil but i just need others opinions. wwyd? would you be bothered? would you just wait and see? is anyone else in a similar position??