I was very ill over Christmas and early January and am also pregnant. I reluctantly accepted Mum's offer to come down when DH went back to work to help with DS and give me some breathing space. We don't have a good relationship but I was really desperate.
Anyway, she has been an absolute star - I have regained all the weight I lost, my baby started growing again and I can have a home birth again, DS has had all the attention and stimulation I couldn't give him and has been much happier.
I am now better and the baby is due anytime. Mum wants to go home but won't and says she intends to stay until the baby is born.
The trouble is that she is sleeping in the room where I intend to have the baby (there isn't another one available) plus she can be quite overbearing and is worrying about things that don't bother me and DH and I just feel I can't relax and have the baby while she is still here.
She is also constantly critical of my DH and although he is not perfect I love him to bits and wouldn't have him any other way. She's also started criticising my parenting style and I can see things coming to a head very soon. We don't usually get on so I don't want to ruin things with a row.
Mum is very needy and any attempt at saying "I really, really, appreciate what you have done for me but now it is time for you to go home" will be taken as direct criticism and rejection.
I just don't know how to say what I want to say without it being taken the wrong way.
Anyone got any ideas? Thank you.
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Need to ask my Mum to go home but don't want to upset her - help!
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appledumpling · 05/02/2009 18:07
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