Had a really, really good friend for years. Has been there for me through it all.
I know she didn't really like my DH but it seemed OK that we spent time together.
Anyway, about 3 years ago, she told me she'd been having an affair (with the love of her life) for 10 years. I was totally shocked and a bit miffed as she'd denied it loads of time and (in the 10 years) this chap had married, had two kids and divorced, all while he was seeing my friend.
We sort of fell out but made up as she was a really good friend. Then DH and I had a huge fight and she was there for me every step of the way. Said she'd support me no matter what... Until DH and I sorted it all out... Seems one particular outcome she hadn't been expecting was for us to be happy....
So, after around 2 years of trying to be her friend, and getting 'oh, yes, I really want to be friends' and 'I will call you' and 'I'll be in touch' and a million other things, I have decided the only way forward is for me to make the decision.
It's hard, cos I don't want to fall out with her, but feel that the decision really has alredy been made, and I'm really flogging a dead horse, so have just cancelled her friendship on FB and a couple of other things and also on my PC.
Feeling a bit but think this is just an external face of what's alredy happened given she never bothers with me other than to say 'ooohhh, yes, I'll be in touch soon'..
I know I'm doing the right thing but all the same, would you mind reassuring me?
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Just 'let go' of a really good friend (or what I thought was) :-(
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TheSeriousSanta · 03/12/2008 19:49
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