About 15 years ago I was severly beaten by my brother. We were in our early 20s and both living at parents' house.
He was, and is, a very violent and aggressive person. He is 6ft 4 tall and very overweight, not sure how much but he is off the scale on a normal set of scales.
A row occurred when he tipped some water (on purpose) on some new make up I had bought. I got upset and the upshot was that he beat me, the worst part was me cowering in a corner next to a glass door being beaten with a chair. He was shouting that he would kill me. I was so scared, when it ended I ran out of the house and drove to the police station. I could barely drive because I was in such pain. When I got there it was closed so I rang a phone thing on the door, but lost my nerve and hung up when someone answered. I then drove to a petrol station and sat for hours crying in the car. I had nowhere else to go so eventually went home. I can't remember what happened but I wasn't hit again that night.
I am still scared of what he is capable of, but since that day(after a long period of not speaking to him at all) I now have an uneasy relationship where I either humour or ignore him.
My parents were there when he beat me but made only superficial efforts to intervene. My mother was very aggressive to me as well and would lose her temper, once when I was 11 she once put her hands around my throat and tried to strangle me.
Ironically I now get on best with my Dad, although when I was very small he was very violent as well, but only after losing his temper with my mother, and I think what he did was accidental, that is he didn't set out to hurt me, but would do things like push me over and I would hit my head on a fireplace.
I don't know what to do or where to go or if this is even worth doing anything about. But I feel very upset and down about my family background and want so badly not to make the same mistakes on my ds 17m as were inflicted on me. Thanks for reading. Sorry it's long.
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Traumatised by my abusive brother and dysfunctional family, just need to 'talk'
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ilovejonty · 03/12/2008 16:20
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