Dh may or may not have a son with his x gf. The boy is 10. she had an abortion 3 months before she got pregnant with her ds. the father didnt want to know. But she was still seeing that guy as well as dh when she got pregnant last time.
So dh has never known if the boy is his or not. His tried having a relationship with him but the ex lets him then withdraws it.
He asked again a few months back and she has been dragging it out saying maybe next weekend etc. Then 3 weeks ago came the demand the get him a nintendo ds. Which we said we would think about. Its an expensive gift and we have 3 kids of our own.
He was on his way to see them last sayurday but got held up in traffic. He sent a text telling her this as she never answers the phone. Her reply was to not bother then.
So dh asked well when can i see him then. so she replied next week with the ds ( nintendo).
dh said he wanted to see the boy and he felt it right that after years of denying him one that they have a dna test in the new year. But that he still wanted to see the boy. Her reply was im too angry to talk to you know and your scaring x dont make me call the police on you.
Dh never threatened her or swore and has been nothing but polite and civil.
It bothers him enormously that he doesnt see this lad and also that he may even not be his, We dont have the money to fight her throught the courts.
Whether the boy is his or not if dh wants a relationship with him he will be more than welcome into our family. Just not sure how to deal with xgf. She is mid to late 30's so not a kid.
but her resonces are wierd. He sent one saying did you get last text? Her reply was yes but i didnt answer cos you smell of poo.
I can laugh but im at a loss at to what to say to dh.
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Dh wants to see his son but ex gf is funny..........
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sugarpear · 01/12/2008 16:54
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