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Im scared....im just about to meet the guy im seeing's kids. im crap with kids!

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HRHSaintMamazon · 30/11/2008 10:47

really, im rubbish.

im not even very good with my own kids.

plus it's such a big deal isn't it..meeting his kids.

i want to of course, but omg what if they hate me?

should i stock up on sweeties and just bribe them?

arrggghhhhh.

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HRHSaintMamazon · 30/11/2008 10:49

and none of this makes any sense whatsoever so just ignore me while i ramble away.

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bronze · 30/11/2008 10:51

~Just be nice liek you would any other person. I wouldn't bribe them they may expect if of you every time.

You have my sympathy though I'm rubbish with other peoples children too

Good luck

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MarsLady · 30/11/2008 10:52

Mamazon. You'll be fine. Just be your normal friendly self. Don't try to be "superfriendly grownup being nice to the children". Just be you. You're rather lovely and they'll see that.

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Marne · 30/11/2008 10:55

Relax, i can remember when i met dh's kids, i was shitting myself , i didn't have children of my own so didn't have a clue about children.

Give them some sweets, that will win them over .

How old are they? girls or boys?

I can remember talking to dsd(3 at the time) about Barbie Dolls, she was well impressed. Try and find out what they are interested in so you can talk to them (make out your interested).

Good luck.

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ElenorRigby · 30/11/2008 12:38

Introduce yourself as daddys friend no girlfriend. Don try to hard with the kids let them come to you.

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lou33 · 30/11/2008 13:01

mama, i bet it will be fine if you are just yourself

the guy i am seeing came to stay this week and met my kids for the first time, he has befriended them all just by being himself and chatting and not trying to push anything

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HRHSaintMamazon · 01/12/2008 12:04

well it went ok.
his children are almost identical ages to my own so they went off and played mostly.

i won his son over just buy saying i supported arsenal and being able to talk about football and his daughter was just wanted me to come into the soft play thingy with her.

They could hate me of course but they were far too polite to let on.

im justglad it's over. Its bad enough having to call him my boyfriend....i blush and feel about 13!
meeting his kids is all rather grown up and im just not used to doing it.

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lou33 · 01/12/2008 13:11

am glad it went well mama

my kids are enjoying using the term "your boyfriend" as much as they can squeeze in during waking hours

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HRHSaintMamazon · 01/12/2008 21:40

Dd went and told my mum that she saw me "kissing mummy's boyfriend"

omg i could have died. you would never believe im a fully grown adult with children of my own...i just became a blushing jibbering freak.

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lou33 · 01/12/2008 22:18

lol

i threaten to kiss mine in front of mine if they dont behave

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