First time posting and afraid it may be a bit of a rant...
Have been with DH for nearly 6 years, married for almost 4. Rocky since beginning but always been determined to make it work. We have 1 DD almost 3 yrs.
My history not great - baaaad relationships/not much experience before DH. He was engaged before me and she cheated on him.
On our honeymoon he was violent towards me (threw me around hotel room for talking to very old male friends of mine) but apologised profusely and week 2 in different location was great.
Has continued being violent towards me and threatens me ("will throw you down the stairs" "want you to get run over by a bus") tells me he hates me. No violence recently, but threats of it. I'm no angel but have changed my ways in past 18 months and now walk away rather than get angry with him. (actually, let's be honest, I just cry like a baby).
Sex is limited, once in the past 3 weeks. He doesn't have a problem with this but I do. Says he doesn't think sex is an important part of a relationship - I say b**llocks to that. Won't cuddle or kiss me unless it's leading to something more.
Am I kidding myself by staying with him?
I'm sure I should be able to answer my own question, but feel so low that I can't. Almost feel that I need to stay to prove that I am loveable/likeable.
I also think he's lying to me about where he is when he's out at night (which isn't often). Don't feel I trust him and feel there's nothing being offered to make me trust him.
lots of red wine consumed by me tonight, so sorry if I'm making no sense.
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Am I insane, or is this normal?
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GuiltyMummy · 23/10/2008 23:43
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