My BF is travelling down to see me this weekend. He has to rearrange his schedule at work, get his little boy to his EW, spend money on fares (money's tight). Travel for a few hours late at night after a days work ... We were 'chuffed' because my DD is going to a freinds for the weekend and we'll have the place quiet and to ourselves. (Rare).
We don't see a whole lot of each other due to all above, it's been that way for nearly 2 years now, But we are still very much into each other.
I have just got my period. Blah.. was late for some reason (it's starting to be a bit irregular... age etc)
I know that sounds really crapp and I don't want to give the wrong impression here, but I feel it's a bummer really and I want to tell him and give him the option of choosing to wait another a week and we can really enjoy each other. But even saying that to myself on here, sounds a bit shallow. Also, if he turns round and says 'OK I;ll come next weekend', will make it seem even worse... so I am in a dilemma. Shall I just let him turn up and then tell him? Usually it all systems go as soon as we meet (providing DD at her buddies)...
I know there are things you can 'do' to alleviate the situation which can be just as enjoyable... but still. In the two years I have known him this hasn't really upset the applecart luckily.
I really want him to come, I miss him and he misses me.
Should this not even come into the equation? Just being together is the most important thing etc? (But we love sex with each other)...( I'm not one of those women that could go full penetrative sex whilst menstruating don't think so anyway perhaps he's not up for it ) so please don't suggest that.
Sounds shallow but I bet you've been in this situation some time or other...
I guess I should take it as it comes, but should I say before making him do all that to get to me? Take it as one of the grey factors of a LDR?
Sounds even more 'primitive and grotty' the more I re-read it... I want him here 'not' just for sex?
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Kally · 23/10/2008 09:48
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