Martian looking for answers from Venus!!!!!

[MrMajestic]

Hi girls, hope some of you are still awake!
I wouldn't ordinarily post on a forum like this, but I've just been out with the guys (who I've got to say have done their level best to cheer me up) and I'm feeling a combination of a little low/sozzled, so I thought 'Hey, what the hell?'

I'm not looking for any magic bullet here, but I figure, who best to make sense of the cryptic minds of the fairer sex than a whole bunch of them together on the internet (fish in a barrel etc.)
Here's the skinny:
I'm getting to a certain age (40ihs) and realising that the ladies that I'm meeting, in a personal sense, just aren't cutting the mustard (broke up this week, my choice, but still an unhappy choice).
We had been together for a great 18 months, but I came to the conclusion that she didn't want me - she wanted what my lifesytle (even in this economic climate!). I suppose what I'm asking is 'How do I meet ordinary women?' And I don't mean that in a pejorative sense, I mean I want to meet 'real' women; ordinary if you will. I'm sure I'm making a fool of myself here, but taking risks is what I do for a living and that's what's got me to where I am today, so what the hell.
I await your slings and arrows!!!

[Tortington]

christ on a bike, how many threads dya want.

[trumpetgirl]

That is a ridiculous question.
Could you tell me how I can meet an 'ordinary man'?!?

[RedOnHerBeheadedHead]

your not making a fool of yourself - hang in there, Mrs (or Miss) ordinary will come along one day. MN had loads! Not me though, there is a MrRedOnHerBeheadedHead!
Are you sure that she really wanted you for your lifestyle? Have you actually asked her?
anyway,
good luck.

[GylesBandwidth]

Repetitive men are very tedious.

[Quattrocento]

LOOK, THE FIRST RULE OF TROLLS ON THIS SITE IS TO BE AMUSING

IS IT ANY WONDER YOU CAN'T FIND LURVE?

JEEZ

[RedOnHerBeheadedHead]

Not sure many of us are "normal" here though
"normal" in an MN sense eh? ladies!???

[GylesBandwidth]

Repetitive men are very tedious.

[GylesBandwidth]

Repetitive men are very tedious.

[RedOnHerBeheadedHead]

oops - did i miss a troll

[zippitippitoes]

i am wondering what pandoras box is opening up here

[RedOnHerBeheadedHead]

feel stupid now!

[Panfriedpumpkin]

What?? Another one!!

Direct laddio to the wilderness that is dadsnet. That'll sort him out.

[Quattrocento]

No Otter, you were being kind and sympathetic to a very dull man with a BSOH who happens to look just like Arthur Lowe...

[RedOnHerBeheadedHead]

Arthur Lowe, now there's a sexy beast!

[TeaTime]

How much did you talk to the woman you dumped? It sounds like you second-guessed her motives to be slightly below your desired target.. You might have been surprised at what she had to say if you were ready to really listen.
Be honest about what you really want. Is it someone to serve and be devoted to you through life's ups and downs? Sounds like you really want a mum.

I also wonder how 'real' you are when women meet you? Are you completely honest or do you big yourself up? Don't expect to meet 'real' women unless you are real too.

What about just enjoying yourself in mixed company (take up a hobby?!) and of course, don't try too hard, that's the biggest turnoff.

[Panfriedpumpkin]

don't feed the troll.

night.

[MrMajestic]

Teatime:
there was perhaps an age gap that we couldn't ever bridge and I'm sure the circumstances of our meeting didn't bode well for the future, but I gave it my best shot and we had a hell of a wild ride, but towards the end I really felt as if I was being taken for a ride myself. In hindsight, I think I made a bit of a fool of myself (Vampire Weekend anyone?!!!) but damn if I didn't enjoy every crazy minute of it whilst it lasted.

[Mumi]

Not using the phrase "Here's the skinny:" would be a good start. It makes you sound like a prick

[unlikelyamazonian]

fuck off idiot

[trumpetgirl]

Mr Majestic - just to clarify, are you and saracenandy the same person or are all the 40ish single men coming on MN to try and find women now?
I think that asking where you can find your perfect woman is a bit silly! Perhaps we could actually be of help if you were in a relationship and needed a woman's perspective, or advice... but I'm not sure what you think you can gain here.

[unlikelyamazonian]

er, fuck off idiot. again.

[Quattrocento]

[unlikelyamazonian]

and another thing, fuck off.

sorry. couple of gins down the line here and got me own prblems.

where's geordie?

fuck off idiot man saying 'hey girls' like we is a bunch of sheep on a slopey hill. fuck off.

not that I'm grumpy.

fuck off. sorry about all the fuck offs.

[unlikelyamazonian]

Hi quattro. god am a bit pissed. But that's not bad considering. Credit Crunch and icesave crash and husband shagging and all.

Up for a giggle actually with this arsetoss. who is he or am I like the cavalry and too late and he's already run away?

[MrMajestic]

Trumpet girl: I must admit I hadn't read saracenandy's postings before, but now that I have I would have probably though twice about entering into a conversation here, but as Bono sang it - the damage is done.
What do I hope to gain? I don't know myself - a little insight perhaps - a way into the way women think, something that would help me discern the 'wheat from the chaff' so to speak. I don't ant to get into specifics as I'm old-fashioned in the sense that I think a gent should never tell tales, but I would value any assistance in how to go about meeting a soulmate - and don't say libraries as I'm now persona non grata at the Bodleian!!!